Since I embarked on my weight loss journey on 16 July 2012, I’ve lost a total of 17kg. After all this while, what is the meaning of this journey? I had recently shared my views on body image issues. Today, I’m thinking out loud again and writing out my thoughts On Losing 17kg: 5 Reasons Why We Do the Things We Do.
Last Tuesday, I went on an impromptu coffee date with my food twin, Zhen Fang. You probably don’t know her yet, as I’ve probably never mentioned her on here before. I plan to include her in my next Project Tomodachi blog post! Anyways, by way of introduction, Zhen Fang and I are secondary school mates. We are food twins because we share almost identical tastes in food. This, we only found out recently after having become re-acquainted via Facebook – believe it or not, we were never in the same class and had never spoken throughout our 4 years in school together! It’s really amazing what social media can do. :)
During our coffee time, she mentioned that she had started to make changes to her diet and lifestyle, in a bid to pursue new fitness goals. In a nutshell, she’s making some changes in order to attain a certain level of fitness and she’s working on body recomposition. She wrote on Facebook that she’s ultimately pursuing the goal of 6-pack abs, to be lean, mean, strong and fit, to be able to comfortably pursue outdoor activities at an above-average fitness level. Trust me when I say not everybody would be able to adapt to the changes she’s making to her life. These changes are so extensive, she’s had to sacrifice quite a bit so that things will work out according to plan. I applaud her for thinking of making this change, for even starting in the first place, because most people I know wouldn’t bother. Why bother with abs? Why sacrifice glorious food? Why become a lean mean machine when you can just be average (or below average, who cares), eat all you want, don’t exercise, and just LIVE? She’s truly an inspiration to me.
She stated her reasons for doing what she’s doing, and at the end, she asked, “…what is your reason?“, which prompted me to write this post.
Zhen Fang and I enjoying our coffee time with our giraffe, J-Z :) ❤
#1: We do it because we care about how others see us.
Truth be told, we are all prisoners. Prisoners of others’ thoughts. Every day, we behave in a certain way because we care about how others see us. I don’t like to judge others because I don’t like to be judged. Therefore, I try my best to not form an opinion about others or pass unnecessary remarks based on what I see, because most of the time, you don’t really know the full story.
No one is completely capable of not forming an opinion based on the way they look at others. No one is truly free from judgment. Especially in a society this harsh, everyone is getting criticised. If you are good, you get criticised. If you are bad, you get criticised. As long as you are living and breathing, you get criticised. The only way to not get criticised is probably to vanish from the face of this Earth.
When I first started this journey, a major push factor was others’ opinions of my body. I wanted so badly to shake off that fat girl image, I simply had to do something about it. I guess negative remarks work as a double-edged sword; they can hurt you majorly and break your heart, but they can also push you to do something about your weight. I’m glad I decided to use those words as a propelling force. In fact, I guess I have to thank those people for their unkind words, without which I probably wouldn’t be what I am today.