WHEN is it OK to shame someone for being fat? Yeah, when is body-shaming OK?
Just on Sunday, The Straits Times published an article entitled “Beauty queen loves her plus-sized body”. For that article, they interviewed me on body-shaming.
Seeing that I used to be overweight, they felt that I would have some input on this topic. And I did! I had LOTS to tell them about body-shaming. My whole life? I was body-shamed. My family, teachers, friends, classmates, colleagues, doctors? They all didn’t seem to have problems telling it to my face, asking me why I was so “big-sized”, calling me “fat”, “plump”, “fleshy”. They poked fun at me. Laughed in my face. Didn’t give two shits as to how I felt.
“HEY YOU’RE FAT.”
“HEY YOU’RE FAT!”
“HEY YOU’RE FAT!!!!”
Was I hurt? DUH. Did I cry? Countless nights. Cried myself to sleep. I didn’t know what to do, didn’t know how to start, went on many “diets” only to revert to my old habits. Basically, did not have a plan, did not understand how weight loss works.
Having said that, I am however of the opinion that, no matter whether someone is overweight or not, they should NOT be subjected to ridicule, attacks, or rudeness just because of the way they are. NOBODY SHOULD BE BULLIED LIKE THAT.
Some of the stuff I said to Ms Cheryl Teh of The Straits Times was quoted in the article as such:
“Ms Jade Isabelle Liang, 31, knows all too well how cruel people can be towards those who are big-sized.
“Everybody around me didn’t seem to have problems shaming me all the time – friends, family and teachers included,” said Ms Liang, who is 1.55m tall and weighed 60kg before her weight loss.
“They liked to pinch my arms and jiggle it, or say things like, ‘Wah, your big bag suits your big body, great choice!'” she added.
The blogger started running and dieting in 2012 and lost 16.8kg to weigh just 44kg.
Ms Liang said feeling unhealthy had hardened her resolve to lose weight.
“I felt sluggish and tired all the time. I also had knee problems because of my weight… I felt like I wasn’t in the best of health, so I decided to change,” she said.
Ms Liang has developed a love for running and managed to maintain her weight since.”
Unfortunately, in our society, body-shaming is extremely prevalent. I could prolly write a freakin’ ESSAY on it. For now, click through the above link to read the article. I’d very much like to write a detailed piece on body-shaming when I gather my thoughts. xx J